how to have a marriage crisis, in five easy steps.
Posted by: sassenach in Mad Rants, My So-Called Life1. Both you and your husband realize, and agree, that you not only got married for the wrong reasons respectively, but got married TO EACH OTHER for the wrong reasons.
2. Neither you nor your husband know if there even EXISTS a way to “make it work,” but if so, *how* to “make it work.”
3. Husband tells wife that he has not one, not two, but three!–count ‘em, three!–out-of-town SCA events, back to back. Three weekends in a row. um, hi, I’m just wallpaper over here. No need to spend time with me.
4. Husband gets news today that he is going to retraining school, courtesy of the U.S. Military, in a different state and will be gone for THREE months, effectively being away during the following holidays/general dates of interest:
- Thanksgiving
- Fifth wedding anniversary
- Christmas
- New Year’s Eve/Day
- Valentine’s Day
(Apparently he will be able to come home for a “four-day weekend” for Thanksgiving and Christmas, but that’s it.)
5. Add a third party of interest into the mix–yikes, I cannot even discuss that right now. Life is complicated, let’s just leave it at that.
Conclusion? Life is absurd. And apparently God is drunk today.
Help.
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Ummmm… that’s not good. I wish I could help…
I have no good advice to give. From the sound of it, you two are at least capable of talking about what’s going on, for the most part. Maybe the time he’s away will be a good time to think about things… alone.
Hugs to you.
oh my goodness, been there done that (#1 & #2), but I had that conversation with my former husband after 8 years of marriage.
My advice … find a professional to talk this over with. It was the best money I ever spent!
Oh yuck. I wish I had some good advice. All I can offer is positive thoughts heading your way.
oh yuck. hub and i had a major argument the night before my birthday this past weekend. i hate being out of sync with him.
i hope stuff gets better for you.
will talk to god about getting off the hooch.
sending good thoughts your way
Oh no… I don’t know what it’s like to have a marriage go into trouble, but I know all about having the things you’d planned on/for go up in smoke… I’m always here if you need to talk. Hugs.
My gosh. I’m definently sending good thoughts your way, and hope things work out for the best. I’ll second the suggestion to talk to a marriage counselor.